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I’m Pregnant, Who Should I Tell? Navigating Hard Conversations With Your Partner, Family, or Friends

Mon, 02 Feb 2026 15:23:59 GMT

I’m Pregnant, Who Should I Tell? Navigating Hard Conversations With Your Partner, Family, or Friends

Finding out you’re pregnant—especially when it’s unexpected—can feel overwhelming. Along with the emotions, questions, and decisions, one big concern often rises to the surface: Who should I tell?

Telling your partner, family, or friends can feel intimidating, especially if you’re unsure how they’ll react. Whether you’re afraid of disappointing someone, causing conflict, or feeling judged, you’re not alone. At Care Net Pregnancy Center of Frederick in Frederick, Maryland , we walk alongside women every day who are navigating these exact conversations.

Here are some gentle tips to help you approach these difficult but important discussions with confidence and care.

Telling Your Partner

If you have a partner, telling them is often one of the most emotional conversations. You may be nervous about their reaction—or unsure how they’ll feel.

Helpful tips:

Choose a calm, private space where you won’t feel rushed
Be honest about your feelings, even if you’re unsure or scared
Remember: this conversation doesn’t have to solve everything at once

It’s okay if emotions run high. Give each other space to process, and know that support is available if the conversation feels overwhelming.

Talking With Family

Family reactions can vary widely—some may be supportive, others may surprise you. You might feel pressure, fear, disappointment, or worry about judgment.

Consider this before sharing:

Who in your family feels safest to talk to first?
What kind of support do you need right now—emotional, practical, or both?
It’s okay to share only what you’re comfortable with

You don’t owe anyone all the details immediately. Take it one step at a time.

Opening Up to Friends

Friends can be an incredible source of support—but only if you feel safe doing so. Trust your instincts when deciding who to tell.

Ask yourself:

Will this person listen without judgment?
Do they respect my boundaries?
Will they support me, even if they don’t fully understand?

It’s okay to wait until you feel ready. There’s no timeline for sharing your story.

When You’re Not Ready to Tell Anyone

If you’re not ready to talk to your partner, family, or friends yet—that’s okay. You deserve a safe, confidential place to process everything first.

That’s where Care Net Pregnancy Center of Frederick in Frederick, Maryland comes in.

You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone

At Care Net Pregnancy Center of Frederick in Frederick, Maryland , we provide a judgment-free space to talk, ask questions, and explore your options . Our compassionate team is here to support you— no pressure, no cost , and complete confidentiality.

Whether you need help preparing for a hard conversation or just need someone to listen, we’re here for you.

Contact Care Net Pregnancy Center of Frederick in Frederick, Maryland today to schedule a free, confidential appointment . You are not alone—and support is closer than you think.

Signs of an Incomplete Abortion in Maryland

Tue, 28 Oct 2025 17:14:13 GMT

Signs of an Incomplete Abortion in Maryland

An unplanned pregnancy can be overwhelming, and some women turn to abortion—whether surgical or with abortion pills—without realizing the potential risks. One serious complication is an incomplete abortion , when pregnancy tissue remains in the uterus after the procedure.

At Care Net Pregnancy Center of Frederick, Maryland , we want women to have accurate information about their health, so they can recognize warning signs and know where to find support.

What Is an Incomplete Abortion?

An incomplete abortion happens when not all pregnancy tissue is expelled from the uterus. This can occur after a medication abortion (abortion pills) or a surgical abortion. When tissue remains, it can lead to infection, heavy bleeding, or other serious medical issues.

Common Signs of an Incomplete Abortion

If you or someone you know has recently had an abortion, watch for these warning signs :

Heavy or prolonged bleeding
Severe abdominal or pelvic pain
Fever, chills, or flu-like symptoms
Foul-smelling vaginal discharge
Feeling ill or generally unwell
Ongoing pregnancy symptoms (nausea, breast tenderness, or fatigue that continues after the abortion)

Why It’s Important to Seek Help Immediately

Life may be crazy at the moment, but it’s important to pay attention to what’s going on with your body. Complications of an incomplete abortion may include:

Severe infection (sepsis)
Hemorrhaging (dangerous blood loss)
Future fertility issues
Life-threatening conditions if untreated

If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, seek medical care right away.

How Care Net Pregnancy Center of Frederick, Maryland Can Support You

At Care Net Pregnancy Center of Frederick , we provide:

Free pregnancy testing
Limited ultrasounds to confirm if a pregnancy is still present
Confidential consultations in a safe, supportive environment

While we do not perform or refer for abortions , our compassionate staff is here to help you understand your options and connect you with the care you may need.

You’re Not Alone

Facing an incomplete abortion can feel frightening, but you don’t have to go through it alone. Contact Care Net Pregnancy Center of Frederick, Maryland today for free and confidential help. Your health and safety matter.

References:

World Health Organization. (2022). Abortion care guideline. https://www.who.int/publications/i/item/9789240039483
Mayo Clinic. (2023). Abortion: What you can expect. https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/abortion/about/pac-20395195
Cleveland Clinic. (2024). Incomplete Abortion: Causes, Symptoms & Treatment. https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/23345-incomplete-abortion
MedlinePlus. (2023). Abortion - incomplete. https://medlineplus.gov/ency/article/002912.htm
Johns Hopkins Medicine. (2024). Endometritis. https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/endometritis

American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG). (2023). Induced Abortion. https://www.acog.org/womens-health/faqs/induced-abortion

Abortion Laws in Maryland

Wed, 04 Jun 2025 19:03:38 GMT

Abortion Laws in Maryland

Understanding Abortion Laws in Maryland

Navigating reproductive health care can feel overwhelming, especially as laws and regulations vary from state to state. In Maryland, abortion remains legal with certain restrictions in place. Whether you're seeking information for yourself or someone you care about, understanding the current legal landscape can support informed and confident decision-making. Care Net Pregnancy Center of Frederick in Frederick, Maryland, provides information on abortion and free ultrasound services to confirm a viable pregnancy for individuals considering abortion.

Current Abortion Laws in Maryland

Abortion is legal in Maryland, and the state has enacted several policies to protect both access to care and patient safety. The following regulations are currently in effect:

Abortion is not restricted by gestational age. There are no specific limits based on the duration of pregnancy under Maryland law.
Parental notice is required for a minor’s abortion. However, a provider may waive this requirement if they believe it is not in the minor’s best interest.
State Medicaid covers abortion care. Maryland’s Medicaid program includes coverage for abortion services.
Private health insurance plans are required to cover abortion. State law mandates that private insurers include abortion care in their coverage.
Maryland law provides protections from harassment and physical harm for individuals entering abortion clinics.
The state has a shield law to protec t abortion providers from investigations or legal actions initiated by other states. This may also extend to patients and support organizations involved in providing or seeking care.

Miscarriage Care Is Not the Same as Abortion Care

It’s important to clarify that abortion laws or policies do not restrict access to medical care for miscarriage. A miscarriage - also known as spontaneous pregnancy loss - is medically and legally distinct from abortion. Miscarriage care remains fully legal and available across the state.

Unfortunately, misinformation has led some to believe that access to emergency care for miscarriage may be affected by abortion laws. This is not the case. Miscarriage can involve serious health risks, and hospitals and medical providers are both equipped and permitted to offer the necessary care. If you or someone you know is experiencing signs of a miscarriage, it’s essential to seek medical attention without delay.

Empowered Consent

Understanding your rights and responsibilities under state law is a crucial part of empowered consent. Whether someone chooses to carry a pregnancy to term, explore adoption , or seek an abortion, access to clear, accurate information is essential.

Our center offers free and confidential services if you are considering abortion in Frederick, Maryland. These services are available to minors, and parental consent is not required . If you're considering your options , we are here to support you with facts, not pressure.

If you're not located near our center, we can also refer you to a free pregnancy clinic near you that can assist you as you navigate your next steps.

Schedule a Free Appointment

If you think you may be pregnant and want to understand your options , Care Net Pregnancy Center of Frederick is here to help.

Our compassionate team is here to support you with facts, not pressure - so you can make an informed decision that’s right for you.

Schedule your free appointment today and explore your options in a safe, nonjudgmental environment.

STD Questions and Answers

Tue, 17 Jul 2018 14:23:34 GMT

Below are some answers to frequent STD questions. If you are concerned that you are at risk for an STD, please don’t put off getting tested. STDs are common and it is possible to be infected without being aware. Take control of your health and get tested.

Call Care Net Frederick today for your free and confidential appointment – 301.662.5300 .

Q: What is an STD?

A: An STD is a sexually transmitted disease; an infection that is transmitted through oral, vaginal or anal sex, intravenous drug use or through nonsexual contact such as childbirth or breastfeeding.

Q: Should I get tested for STDs?

A: Yes. Take charge of your sexual health. Some STDs, like chlamydia and gonorrhea, may not display any symptoms at all, but are still just as contagious.

Q: How do I know if I have an STD?

A: You can have an STD and not know it due to a lack of symptoms. For instance, you can contract chlamydia or gonorrhea and not have the infection treated due to lack of bumps, rashes or itching. The “silent” nature of STDs helps explain why these infections are so widespread as so many individuals are simply unaware that they have one or more and they spread them unknowingly. Help put an end to the spread of STDs and help protect yourself by learning your status.

Q: Is oral sex safe sex?

A: Simply put, no. You are just as vulnerable to STDs from unprotected oral sex, whether you are the giver or the recipient, as you are with any other unprotected sexual activity.

Q: Where can I get STD testing?

A: Call Care Net Frederick today for your free and confidential appointment – 301.662.5300 .

Do you have more STD questions? Contact us for more information!

*excerpts from www.stdcheck.com

Informed Decision Checklist

Thu, 21 Jun 2018 14:16:48 GMT

There are some events in life that can be life-changing, pregnancy happens to be one of them. Do you find yourself in this place? Have you missed a period and taken a pregnancy test with a positive result? Seeing that positive test result can be pretty scary.

You may be thinking this pregnancy is too hard to do, and your first thought is to get an abortion. Read on to get the most up-to-date information to make an informed decision.

Sometimes a positive pregnancy test result feels like good news. However, sometimes it can feel like a punch in the gut. Right now you might be feeling overwhelmed and panicked. You may feel that you have to make a decision right now before anyone finds out. You have convinced yourself that your life is out of control, all your plans are turned upside down, and that you can’t do this.

Don’t Rush

Before you rush out and make a decision in this heightened state of emotions, take a moment to breathe. Sometimes the decisions we make quickly from fear and pressure are the decisions we regret in the future. Making a rushed decision can put you in an unsafe situation.

You deserve to be safe and healthy – whatever you choose to do about this pregnancy. Take a moment to consider the following questions and answers that will help you be safe, and give you time to think and make an informed decision. What do you need to know?

Am I pregnant?

Pregnancy tests are not always accurate. Get your pregnancy confirmed by a medical professional (Care Net Frederick has a board-certified OB/GYN doctor on staff). An ultrasound can tell if there is a heartbeat and how far along you are. Call us today ( 301-662-5300 ) to schedule your confirmation ultrasound at no cost to you. *

Do I understand the potential risks?

Every medical procedure, including abortion, carries the risk of complications. You have the legal right to give fully informed consent. You also have the right to get:

An explanation of the abortion procedures available
The risks and side effects
Learn about other options for your pregnancy

It is important to get information from reliable, trusted medical sources or ask a medical professional who has nothing to gain from your informed decision. Call today ( 301-662-5300 ) to schedule a time to come in and talk, someone on our staff is ready to help you find this information. *

Have I gotten information about the abortion provider?

If you call to make an appointment for an abortion, ask for the name of the doctor in charge. Find out if the doctor is licensed and board-certified. Also, find out if there are malpractice cases or disciplinary actions against the doctor. *

Do I know how the clinic handles complications during the procedure?

Ask if the abortion doctor has admitting privileges to a hospital nearby should you have an emergency. Make sure the clinic has a plan to provide any follow-up or emergency care, should complications arise during or after the procedure. *

Do I know what to do if I change my mind?

Abortion is your choice – you can change your mind at any time before the procedure starts. Women have gotten off the exam table and left. Some have changed their minds after the first set of pills for a medical abortion. This is a decision that you will live with for the rest of your life. Don’t allow anyone to pressure you. *

Have I been tested for sexually transmitted infections (STI)?

You may be carrying an STI and not know it because they often do not have symptoms. Any surgical procedure can be complicated by infection. Call Care Net Frederick (301) 662-5300 today for your STI testing appointment at no cost to you. *

You might feel scared and/or overwhelmed right now. You don’t have to face it alone. We’re here to listen and give you the information you need to make a safe and healthy decision. The choice is yours, choose to know so you can make an informed decision.

*Questions and answers are excerpts from the Before You Decide brochure.

Our Family’s Fight Against HEROIN

Fri, 12 May 2017 14:10:14 GMT

A year ago this coming June, I lost my beautiful niece to a heroin overdose. Alyssa was just 17 years old. She was beautiful, sassy, and full of dreams. Alyssa’s struggle was complex and heartbreaking. Just as she was learning that she could break free from this addiction, enjoy her life without artificial stimulation, and had begun making better and different decisions; she was offered heroin through a text message.

Prior to receiving this text, she was excited about getting her driver’s license, the end of the school year, and looking forward to the summer. The offer of heroin proved to be too much for her, and changed our family forever.

When you lose someone so suddenly, in such a horrific way you begin to ask questions…What if she never received that text offering her heroin? What if after receiving the text, she got help to overcome the temptation? What if someone had heard her and stopped her? The questions go on and on. The sad truth is that these questions do not bring comfort, and will not bring Alyssa back to us.

The overwhelming and sad truth that our family lives with is that Alyssa’s life was cut short. Every day we miss seeing her beautiful face. We miss her voice and her laughter. We miss her sassy ways and seeing her fulfill her dreams. We grieve all the things we will never have with her.

So, what do we do now? Do we sit around asking the “What if” questions? No, we find strength in our faith in God to fight this battle for others, for you! We share our story in hopes that another family will be saved from this nightmare.

That a child, a sibling, a friend will be stopped before it is too late. We share our heartbreak so others might be spared this incredible loss. We honor Alyssa’s life by trying to help others.

If you know someone who is battling this addiction, take action before it is too late. If you are battling this addiction, get help now before it is too late. Heroin is not your friend. It is not your way of escape. It is not harmless. Heroin destroys. It controls you. It takes your life.

Please learn from Alyssa’s tragic story, get help today to overcome this addiction. You Can Do It! If you have any questions and or need help contact us today !

http://www.substanceabusecounselingfrederick.com/

Graduation, Senior Week, & More!

Fri, 10 Jun 2016 14:02:32 GMT

This is an exciting time for high school seniors. Not only has graduation happened and high school is behind you, but you are probably making plans or already at the beach for senior week. During this time, here are 3 key tips to think about (although these specifically apply to senior week, these tips can be helpful for life in general).

Have fun, but don’t let your week or future be ruined by bad decision-making. Remember some decisions have long-lasting consequences. Make decisions that will not leave you with regret.
Stay safe and never go off alone. Always have a support system with you.
You can have fun without having sex, drinking, or doing drugs. If you feel pressured to do these things, remember you don’t have to! Set your boundaries and stay true to them, ask your friends to help keep you accountable to these boundaries when you are tempted to discard them. And help your friends do the same.

Have fun, enjoy your senior week, and stay safe physically, emotionally, and spiritually!

Here is a great link to a page that offers tons of free and fun things to do while on senior week: http://playitsafeoceancity.com/

If you have questions then contact us today !

“It’s Just Sex, Right?”

Thu, 21 Apr 2016 13:58:26 GMT

The physical risks of sexual activity ARE REAL. But they’re not the entire story!

Besides STDs/STIs and pregnancy, there’s something else to consider. Sex is a powerful, intimate act, and can lead to emotional difficulties.

If you hold off on sex for now, here are a few things you won’t be missing out on:

Regret

Giving up your virginity is not something to rush into. This decision can leave you with feelings of regret and wishing that you had waited.

Anger

Every year in 15 to 24 year olds, 1 out of 5 may get an STD/STI, which can lead to anger toward their partner.

Emotional Discomfort

Those with an STD/STI are less likely to feel good about themselves after sex and less comfortable during sex.

Guilt

After sex, you might feel like you let yourself down and others that believe in you. You could also feel guilty if you hurt your partner.

What does WAITING feel like?

Waiting for sex is a decision that’s packed with positive benefits. Even if you’ve already had sex, it’s not too late to decide to wait to have sex again. Waiting gives you the chance to feel:

Free

Your future is ahead of you without the worries of STDs/STIs, pregnancy, or emotional entanglements.

Independent

The strongest people are leaders, not followers. So what if it seems like everyone else is having sex. Show your leadership by making independent decisions!

Respect

You earn respect by standing out, not blending in.

Healthy

Being healthy and feeling healthy can positively affect your entire outlook on life.

How We Can Help!

Care Net Frederick offers Free & Confidential services. If you are second guessing your decision about being sexually active and want to talk to someone about it; or if you are concerned that you might be pregnant or have a STD/STI, please call today to set up your free appointment at 301-662-5300 or email us via our website contact page .

Excerpts from The Medical Institute (2007). “IT’S JUST SEX, RIGHT? THE EMOTIONAL IMPACT OF EARLY SEXUAL ACTIVITY , Austin, TX.

To see The Medical Institute references, view or purchase this pamphlet, please visit www.medinstitute.org .

Think you can’t get HIV/AIDS? Are you positive?

Tue, 01 Dec 2015 12:50:42 GMT

Who:

Every year, nearly 4 million American teenagers get a new STD (sexually transmitted disease). If you’ve had sex, you could have an STD. Some STDs cause symptoms. Others don’t. You could have one and not even know it. Some STDs make you sick today and others cause problems later in life. So get your facts straight about HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus) and AIDS (Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome).

What:

HIV is a virus that invades the immune system and destroys it over time; this reduces a person’s ability to fight off infections and cancer. People with HIV eventually develop AIDS, which is often eventually fatal.

When:

You can get HIV from contact with infected blood or body fluids during vaginal or oral sex. The risk is greatly increased if you have anal sex, multiple partners or shoot drugs. Infected pregnant women can pass it on their babies.

Why get checked?

At first, you may just have short-lived flu-like symptoms (tiredness, fever, aches). You may have no other symptoms for years. Even with no symptoms, you can still pass on the disease during sex. Most people with HIV can prolong their lives by carefully taking medication every day for the rest of their life. If you go on to get AIDS, you may get multiple infections that other people fight off easily.

How to avoid getting infected?

Don’t’ shoot drugs. Using condoms exactly as directed every time you have sex can reduce your risk of getting HIV by about 85% . Looking for a better percentage? Here’s the scoop…if you are single, abstain from all sexual activity. If you are married, be faithful. If you haven’t had sex (oral, vaginal or anal) and don’t shoot drugs, your chances of getting HIV and AIDS are small. If you have had sex, do yourself a favor and get checked out !

Here at Care Net Frederick we offer FREE and confidential STD/STI testing!

Call today to set up your free appointment at 301-662-5300 or email us via our website contact page .

Adapted from The Medical Institute © (2012) ISBN 1-933902-33-7

To see The Medical Institute references, view or purchase this pamphlet, please visit www.medinstitute.org .

Relationship 101 Part 2 – Love Shouldn’t Hurt

Wed, 07 Oct 2015 12:39:51 GMT

If you were to define your relationship how would you define it? Is it wonderful, romantic, fun, or fulfilling? Or is it stressful, painful, or intense? Do you desire things to be different? Do you think that if you just looked better, acted differently or did things better your relationship would be better? Have you taken the time to evaluate your relationship?

The questions above are worth taking the time to consider!

Are there any red flags or is there a knot growing in the pit of your stomach? If you are still unsure, use this relationship 101 checklist to confirm if your relationship is unhealthy and/or abusive.

I had more friends and my grades were better before I began dating my partner.
I am careful to control or hide any actions so my partner doesn’t get angry.
Before we started dating, I was more outgoing and involved with my family, sports, hobbies, and/or religious activities.
When I am alone, I get a lot of texts and calls from my partner checking up on me and my whereabouts. If I don’t respond, my partner gets angry.
My boyfriend/girlfriend said “I love you” very early in the relationship.
My partner is aggressive in other areas of life: throws or breaks things when angry, bangs fist for expression, and/or smashes walls or windshields.
I feel wrong, stupid, crazy, or inadequate. I apologize a lot. I’m never good enough.
I have been pushed against a wall, kicked, pulled, or hit.
My boyfriend/girlfriend has threatened to kill or hurt himself/herself if I break up with him/her.
I have bruises and I feel nervous about explaining them.
My partner has a bad home life: sexual abuse or physical abuse, abandonment, neglect, verbal put downs, and/or parents who abuse substances.
My partner drinks or uses drugs.
Since we started dating, I have a lot of secrets I don’t share with friends or family.
My face or chest has been grabbed by my partner.
I receive a lot of advice from my partner about my friends, hairstyle, or clothes.
I have been pressured to have sexual activity with my partner.
I have been touched sexually without my permission.
My partner calls me unkind names and/or criticizes me in front of others.

If you said yes to any of these you may be caught in a “Un-Love Triangle” which is abusive.

Unhealthy/Abusive relationships DO NOT get better over time.

Sexual Activity DOES NOT make abuse go away.

Getting Married DOES NOT make abuse go away.

You CAN’T FIX the other person; however, you are 100% responsible for YOUR actions, feelings, and thoughts.

If you think you are in an unhealthy relationship talk to someone, your parents, a friend, a teacher or pastor. Don’t wait, do it quickly . Unhealthy relationships are becoming more of a problem in our society with girls as well as guys. Please keep yourself safe and have a great school year.

For our Relationship 101 Part 1, please click here.

(Adapted from “Is It Love” liveonpoint.org, 2009)

Relationship 101 Part 1

Mon, 24 Aug 2015 12:34:34 GMT

In a healthy relationship, your partner wants you to be the best you can be and will encourage and support you. In an unhealthy relationship, it’s all about them and what you do or don’t do for them. Being in a healthy relationship is very important, and a decision you don’t want to rush.

You may be tempted to think that you need to be in a relationship because that’s what you are supposed to do. You be the judge of when you’re ready. As you can see from the list above, sometimes an unhealthy relationship can turn into an abusive relationship. If you find yourself identifying with the examples of an unhealthy relationship, talk to your parents or other adults in your life who have your best interests in mind. Share your thoughts/concerns with them.

Get help right away to remove yourself from an unhealthy or abusive relationship. Lastly, define your dreams and goals and how you are going to achieve them. Don’t let a relationship keep you from your dreams. If anything a boyfriend/girlfriend should encourage and help you achieve those dreams. If you have concerns or just want to talk to someone about your relationship, contact us by email or call us at (301) 662-5300 .

Relationship 101 Part 1

It’s that time of year again; time to start the new school year. You may or may not have all your school supplies; started fall sports or band practice; or are getting settled at college. All of these require important preparations, but let’s take a moment to consider an equally important preparation that is sometimes overlooked – RELATIONSHIPS!

Let’s begin by looking at some characteristics of healthy relationships and unhealthy relationships.

A healthy relationship:

Mutual Respect
Appreciates one for “who” we are as individuals
Listens and adapts when one is uncomfortable
Doesn’t challenge boundaries
Trust
Doesn’t get angry when partner talks to other people
May feel jealous at times, but talks about those feelings
Honesty
Always truthful and doesn’t tell “little white lies” to cover things up
Support
Supports one another during both good and bad times
Fairness/Equality
Equal give and take in the everyday decisions
Spends time equally with one another’s friends and family
Separate Identities
Has own lives- friends, family, hobbies, sports, etc.
Good Communication
Speaks honestly and openly to avoid misunderstanding
Gives space and time to think things over before talking things through
Patience
Relationship grows over time in stages: positive self-image, attraction, casual
friendship, close friendship, intimate friendship, and mature love

An unhealthy relationship:

Jealousy and Fear
Becomes mistrusting and suspicious
Possessive and Controlling Behavior
Keeping secrets and hiding actions
Verbal Criticisms
You may feel toxic shame, guilt, and a loss of esteem and competence
Social Isolation
You may have fewer friends and spend all your time with your partner
Violent Behavior
You may become depressed, hopeless, and have bruises or injuries
You may have thoughts of suicide or fear for your life
Drugs and Alcohol
You may begin using substances as your coping skills breakdown
Broken Promises
You may always apologize or hear “it will never happen again”
Sexual Abuse
You may experience unwanted touching and/or kissing.
Your partner may force sex by using threats or accusations
(Adapted from “Is It Love” liveonpoint.org, 2009)

What You Need To Know about Syphilis…

Tue, 21 Apr 2015 12:30:31 GMT

Here’s the Who, What, When, Why and How low down on this STI

Who:

Every year, nearly 9 million people under the age of 25 get a new STI (sexually transmitted infection). One of these infections is syphilis. If you’ve had sex, you could have an STI. Some STIs cause symptoms. Some don’t. You could have one and not even know it. Some STIs make you sick today and others cause problems later in life.

What:

Syphilis is a bacterial STI . You can get it from having sex with an infected person. Syphilis can be treated with antibiotics. However, they will not repair any damage already done. Delayed treatment can result in serious problems. Both you and your partner must be treated.

When:

You are at risk of getting syphilis when you have sex with an infected person. You usually get it through contact with sores or infected patches. These can be on the genitals or sometimes even on the mouth. Babies can get it from their mothers during pregnancy. Most infected people don’t notice any symptoms, but they can still pass on syphilis. Syphilis can also be passed during oral and anal sex.

Why get checked?

Syphilis symptoms are often similar to those of other diseases. At first, you may get a painless sore for a few weeks. If you don’t get treatment, your syphilis will get worse. Next, you may feel like you have the flu. At this point, you may notice a rash. If you still don’t get treated, syphilis can cause blindness, brain damage, heart damage and death. Syphilis also increases your chance of getting HIV. If you always use condoms for vaginal sex, you can cut your chance of getting syphilis by about half. So far, there is no evidence that condoms reduce your chance of getting syphilis during oral or anal sex.

Here at Care Net Frederick, we offer FREE and confidential STD/STI testing!

Avoid all sexual activity if you are single. Be faithful to one uninfected partner for the rest of your life. If you have had sex, do yourself a favor and get checked out !

How We Can Help

Call today to set up your free appointment at 301-662-5300 or email us via our website contact page .

The Medical Institute (2012). Syphilis, get your facts straight [Pamphlet]. (N.P.) Austin, TX.

To see The Medical Institute references, view or purchase this pamphlet, please visit www.medinstitute.org .

What are you fighting for?

Tue, 20 Jan 2015 12:25:31 GMT

So, just like most guys, I like war movies. Just the other day I was watching “Band of Brothers,” and there is no question it is inspiring. To see the story of real men who risked their lives and faced their foes with courage and valor makes you second guess your own bravery. They were real men.

But, Why Do I Feel That Way?

Why does there seem to be this deep longing in us men to fight for something or even someone, right? I mean, isn’t that the typical “man” movie? The hero fights off the bad guys and saves the girl. I find myself often wishing I was in their position. I say, “I could do that,” and “I wish I had something to fight for,” or “I can be that hero, but I never get the chance!”

I mean, if I had those opportunities I would do everything with courage, and I would never give up. I’d never be lazy, and I would always try hard. Isn’t that right? But, those movies are Hollywood, and real life is boring, monotonous, and there’s definitely no room to be a hero, or is there?

Created WIth A Purpose

The truth is we were created with a purpose. That desire to live like a hero is in us for a reason. Even more than that, there is an enemy, and there are opportunities to fight for something every day. Hollywood is the real boring story, because it’s fake. It’s a staged script that has only a fraction of the honor and fulfillment that can come from living with purpose. But, we have to figure out what we are fighting for.

What Are You Fighting For?

One of the most important areas that men need to fight the hardest for is in relationships. So, in your relationship, are you being the hero, are you fighting for it, or are you apathetic? Do you see your relationship with your wife or girlfriend as something worth fighting for? If we don’t, then those relationships will never reach their potential. Essentially, we will end up fighting against our partner instead of fighting together against the things that are really trying to pull us apart.

We’ve Got To Man Up!

We’ve got to realize that every day is a battle; every day is a chance to give everything we have and never look back. It’s not enough just to go through the motions. It’s not enough just to enlist in the army. We have to make the choice to fight. We have to get up, jump out of the foxhole, and run towards the enemy, facing towards the danger, heart completely in it. If we give up, it’s over.

Start Fighting Now

Even if you aren’t in a dating relationship, start fighting for her now! Begin to set up boundaries and habits in your life that will help you to be the best husband you can be. If you aren’t committed now, it will be a lot harder to just suddenly start later. The habits you form now will be the habits you bring into your marriage. Fight for her; don’t just take the easy path. The fight you have to go through before and during a relationship is what gives the relationship its value.

What are you fighting for?
You can do it! You have what it takes!

Have any questions? Contact us today!

Make a Plan Make a Change

Wed, 12 Nov 2014 12:14:34 GMT

Planning! Some people love to plan, and I am one of those people. I love to make a plan, to think about things before hand and leave out all the guesswork and stress that often accompanies me when I’m unprepared.

And while most of us know about planning trips, planning weddings and parties, and the other day to day activities we encounter, do we ever think about planning for our lives?

So What’s Your Plan?

Have you ever considered taking some time to think hard about who you are, where you are, and where you are heading? Believe me, this can be a difficult undertaking and can even be scary at times as we navigate relationships and important decisions, but the benefit of thinking about your actions and decisions beforehand has been invaluable in my own life and could benefit you as well!

Sometimes it’s the hard things in life that, once we do them, bring us the most reward. So what do you need to “plan” this week or this month? What areas of your life are you feeling lost, stressed, or discouraged in? What about the area of relationships and dating? Have you ever thought about relying on something other than your feelings to navigate your romantic relationships?

Maybe now is the perfect time to start!

The Relationships We Create

The relationships that we engage in and our decisions regarding issues like sex within those relationships are some of the most personal and life-altering decisions we can make! It only makes sense to think carefully about them, to ask for advice, to find good answers to your questions and concerns, and to make some decisions beforehand about how your relationship will operate.

One of the plans that friends and I at TurnTable have in regards to relationships is the decision to be abstinent. We’ve decided that for our romantic relationships before we are married, sex is going to be one of those decisions we say no to. Don’t be afraid to take a stand, to live with intention, and to say yes to waiting. The decisions made for your future well-being will always be ones you regret the least!

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What You Need To Know about Trichomoniasis…

Wed, 15 Oct 2014 12:03:01 GMT

Here’s the Who, What, When and Why low down on this STI

Who:

Every year, nearly 9 million people under the age of 25 get a new STI (sexually transmitted infection). One of these infections is trichomoniasis. If you’ve had sex, you could have an STI.

What:

Trichomoniasis is a very common STI. It is caused by a parasite. You get it from having sex with an infected person.

When:

When you have sex with an infected person you are at risk of getting trichomoniasis. Although most infected people have no obvious symptoms, they can still pass on trichomoniasis. However some people do have symptoms, if you have symptoms they could include itching or a discharge from the penis or vagina, a burning sensation while urinating, and pain during sex.

Why:

Why get checked for trichomoniasis? One reason is that using a condom does not mean you are 100% safe. If you always use condoms for vaginal sex, you may reduce your chance for getting trichomoniasis, however how much your chance is reduced is not known. Trichomoniasis can be treated with antibiotics. Both you and your partner must be treated . If you don’t know you’re infected, you won’t be looking for treatment. If you have had sex, get checked. Don’t put it off.

What You Can Do

Avoid sexual activity if you are single. Why choose a lifestyle of abstinence? To avoid being infected with trichomoniasis and other STI’s of course. Abstinence from sexual intercourse is the only certain way to avoid being infected . If you have had sex, do yourself a favor and get checked out !

How We Can Help

Here at Care Net Frederick , we offer FREE and confidential STD/STI testing!

*Call to set up your free appointment at 301-662-5300 or email us via our website contact page.

The Medical Institute (2007). Trichomoniasis, get your facts straight [Pamphlet]. (N.P.) Austin, TX.

To see The Medical Institute references, view or purchase this pamphlet, please visit www.medinstitute.org .

Are You Up For The Challenge?

Wed, 17 Sep 2014 11:53:42 GMT

Recently, I participated in a small, community health fair at a local middle school and we had the opportunity to ask questions to the kids who came by about relationships and sex. The kids were interested in the questions and they (usually) gave thoughtful answers.

One question that was asked led to a very revealing answer;

“Do you think it is possible to NOT have sex before you are married?”

They were not prepared for this question. The common reaction was one of shock, “Uh…it’s possible I guess, but…I mean, it’s not really realistic.”

Is Abstinence Possible?

Their reaction made me wonder if these kids had ever actually considered that not having sex of any kind (abstinence) until marriage is an achievable option for their own life or if they instead view sex as an expectation in a relationship.

Sure, they’ll list out the reasons to avoid sex and they’ll immediately answer that abstinence is the only way to be sure that you won’t get pregnant or become infected with an STD (they learned all that in their sex education class) but do they realize that this is something actually possible?

Abstinence As Life Choice

Guess what. It is possible! I, for one (now in my twenties), can say that I have never had sex and I have chosen not to until I am married. I’m determined to not let the expectations of the world pressure me into changing my decision. My choice is one that I believe is best for me (now and later on) and a decision that honors my future husband and children as well as God.

Living a life of sexual purity by choosing abstinence has taught me strength and patience and has spared me from the physical risks of STD’s and the emotional turmoil that can come with having a relationship that involves sex.

I’m not the only person who has made this choice of abstinence until marriage. I know hundreds of people who can say the very same thing as I have with a smile on their face. Some of these friends have actually had sex before, but they have decided to start anew because they know that it’s not too late to turn around and start living a life of abstinence from here on out—all is not lost! No one said that this is an easy choice—it’s a real challenge and it takes courage—but it’s a challenge that we each accepted since we think that sexual purity is a worthwhile goal.

Are you up for the challenge?

Do you think you can consider joining us in our choice to stand up against the expectations of the world around us that pressures us to have sex and instead choose abstinence until marriage as a decision for your own life? If you want this, remember that you are not alone. We can do this together!

So if you have never had sex, let me encourage you to stay true to that commitment. If you are sexually active and are reconsidering this choice, you can do it starting today! Are you up for the challenge? Remember you are not alone-we’re here for you, contact the TurnTable group through our website for support.

What You Need To Know about Gonorrhea…

Tue, 19 Aug 2014 11:49:27 GMT

Here’s the Who, What, When and Why low down on this STD

Who:

Every year, almost 4 million American teenagers get an STD. If you’ve had sex, you could be infected with one or more STDs, including gonorrhea. Some STDs cause symptoms. Others don’t. You could have one now and not even know it. Just because you don’t know you’re infected doesn’t mean you aren’t being affected.

What:

Gonorrhea is the second most common bacterial sexually transmitted disease (STD). Women and men can both get gonorrhea by having sex (vaginal, anal or oral sex) with an infected person.

When:

You can pass gonorrhea to every person you have sex with, even without symptoms.

Why:

Why get checked for gonorrhea?

It is important to get checked because most infected people (especially infected women) don’t have symptoms, so they can’t tell. When people with gonorrhea do have symptoms, they might experience pain when going to the bathroom or a discharge from the penis or vagina.

So don’t put getting checked out off! Why choose abstinence? To avoid being infected with gonorrhea and other STD’s of course. Abstinence from sexual intercourse is the only certain way to avoid being infected .

Already had sex? Do yourself a favor and get checked out !

Here at Care Net Frederick we offer FREE and confidential STD/STI testing!

*Call to set up your free appointment at 301-662-5300 or email us via our website contact page.

The Medical Institute (2008). Gonorrhea, get your facts straight [Pamphlet]. (N.P.) Austin, TX.

To see The Medical Institute references, view or purchase this pamphlet, please visit www.medinstitute.org.

How do you feel when you hear the word abortion?

Tue, 22 Jul 2014 11:41:29 GMT

Abortion is one of those topics that people debate but seldom get to the real feelings that result from abortion. If you have had an abortion you may know all too well what I mean. Abortion is legal and society tells us we have a choice. It’s our right. However it is seldom as easy or cut and dry as society makes it out to be.

Here are some questions to ask yourself if you have had an abortion:

Did your life change after your abortion?
Do you get uncomfortable or have very strong feelings when people discuss abortion?
Have you started making unhealthy social choices?
Has your relationship with men changed?
Has your relationship with God changed?
Do you regret your abortion?

If you answered “Yes” to any of these questions, you owe it to yourself to talk with someone about Post-Abortion Care to find out more about it and see if it would be right for you. If you have or are starting to have confusing feelings and/or regrets about your abortion(s), then Post-Abortion Care may be right for you.

Now you have the right to choose again, the right to choose healing!

Care Net Frederick offers Post-Abortion Care in a group setting, Yahweh’s Grace, or in an individual setting. Yahweh’s Grace is not run by professional counselors and is not intended as a substitute for professional counseling. However, we are trained volunteers who wish to bring women together in compassion and love, giving them a safe place to discuss their feelings about their abortion and walk them through the healing process.

Call Us Today

If you would like more information about our Post-Abortion Care or want to start the healing process, you can contact us at 301-662-5300 or email us through the contact page of our website carenetfrederick.org .

What You Need To Know about Chlamydia…

Thu, 03 Jul 2014 11:34:15 GMT

Here’s the Who, What, Where, When, and Why low down on this STD

Who:

Every year, almost 4 million American teenagers get an STD (Sexually transmitted disease). If you’ve had sex, you could be infected with one or more STDs , including chlamydia. Both men and women -particularly young men and women can get chlamydia.

What:

Chlamydia is the most common bacterial STD. Most infected people, especially women, don’t have symptoms, so they can’t tell they are infected. People get infected by having sexual intercourse.

Where & When:

Where and when you are having sex does not matter. If you are having sex, even without symptoms, you can pass chlamydia to every person you have sex with. When people with chlamydia do have symptoms, the symptoms may include pain when going to the bathroom or a “discharge” coming from the penis or vagina.

Why:

Why get checked for chlamydia? It can be treated with antibiotics. But if you don’t know you’re infected, you won’t be looking for treatment. If you have had sex, get checked. Don’t put it off. If treatment is delayed, infected women can get a pelvic inflammatory disease (a serious complication of chlamydia). PID causes problems now (abdominal pain) and problems later (difficulty getting pregnant or infertility). Why choose abstinence? To avoid being infected with chlamydia and other STD’s of course. Abstinence from sexual intercourse is the only certain way to avoid being infected . If you haven’t had sex, your chances of getting chlamydia are small. Already had sex? Do yourself a favor and get checked out!

How We Can Help

Here at Care Net Frederick , we offer FREE and confidential STD/STI testing!

*Call to set up your free appointment at 301-662-5300 or email us via our website contact page .

The Medical Institute (2008). Chlamydia, get your facts straight [Pamphlet]. (N.P.) Austin, TX.

To see The Medical Institute references, view or purchase this pamphlet, please visit www.medinstitute.org .

What’s Up With Waiting?

Fri, 20 Jun 2014 11:25:35 GMT

Wait

One of the most overlooked words in the English language is the word “wait”. Why is it so hard to wait? Well for starters, waiting has the unspoken meaning and reputation of boredom and no action. This could not be further from the truth. Waiting for something takes action and self-control.

Is It Worth It?

Sometimes waiting can be a form of proving yourself and your dedication to what you are striving to become or achieve. Take a job for example. Countless, tedious hours of schooling, and then even more hours of working jobs that barely pay the bills, and for what? Most would say, in pursuit of their dream job. Even though in these seasons of life we seem overly busy and striving, it’s still a form of waiting.

We are waiting for the dream job.

Relationships are really no different than waiting for that perfect job. People seem to have a much easier time working hard for their dream job than in working hard for their relationship dreams. Sadly, an epidemic has begun of refusing to wait for something better than a mediocre life and relationship.

No one is perfect, and no one has the power to be so, thus waiting for a “perfect” person is a ridiculous task. However, simply waiting for someone who shares common goals, beliefs, and values as yourself will save you sorrow and bless you with joy.

Going back to the example of the ambitious employee, what if this individual was offered a decent job? It pays the bills and allows for a little extra. The job even feels enjoyable at times; however, the next month a job came available unbeknownst to them that would have fit their lifestyle perfectly. This new job was everything that they dreamed about while they were sitting through those never-ending classes and gloomy jobs. Sadly, they missed the opportunity because they were focused on making their mediocre job succeed.

This employee stopped waiting for the perfect job and focused their entire effort into an average job that took all of their time without making them feel complete. This is not to say that diligence and hard work is an unproductive choice. The employee, under the circumstances, made the right decision in working hard.

The bottom line

The bottom line is that the employee was not patient. They did not wait for the perfect job. Don’t let your waiting process be a time of sorrow or confusion. Stay open-minded and grounded in who you are and who you can be in God.

A relationship is far weightier than a mere career choice. Think about the effort you put into things that really matter to you. Do you do the same for your relationships?

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Thu, 05 Jun 2014 11:15:44 GMT

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